Anddddddddd after a weekend of nothing but meltdowns, Madd was made to stand up at the end of school and apologise to her whole class. She was apparently sitting there and poking anyone who was sitting near her, and annoying them. Apparently she spent most of today annoying the rest of her class. Her excuse? She was bored and was sick of sitting on the mat. She has a provisional dx of ADHD and Aspergers. How do I handle this?? I sent her with sensory toys a couple of months ago, but she had them taken off her for "mucking around with them" (she was swinging one of them around and it was dangerous for others around her). The teacher has said to Madd that it's "bad behaviour, and if she does it tomorrow she'll be sent to the principal's office".
Should they be more understanding, or are they on the right track? It's so hard to distinguish naughty behaviour from needing help and intervention. She knows that annoying the other kids is wrong, but what if she really couldn't help it because she needed to get off that mat and COULDNT rather than WOULDNT sit still?? Advice and opinions needed please! All comments welcome.
I don't know how I should be handling this. I've always assumed that she can control her "bad behaviour", but what if she genuinely can't? Should the school be trying other options, of maybe giving her some time-out in another part of the school? Maybe sending her to the principal's office would give her the time-out she needs??
I'm devastated, because we've now had 5 days of meltdowns (other than while she was with mum for 12 hours). Those 12 hours, she wasn't made to do anything. She could do whatever she wanted, and didn't have to go to bed on time or brush her teeth or get dressed on time.
So what do I do? I really am at a loss as to what to expect from her, and how much of her behaviour is under her control.
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