I had respite over the weekend. My in-laws asked if they could have both kids for a couple of days over the long weekend. It was all I could do to not throw the kids at them and say "Are you sure you wouldn't like them for a few weeks or months?"
They spent Saturday and Sunday night there, and I picked them up after lunch on Monday. I spent most of my time down at Mum and Dad's working on my TAFE assessments and relaxing watching movies and knitting. I enjoyed every second of it. I was happy to pick them up at the end of the 2 days, but I really did enjoy my time.
Straight after picking the kids up, we headed to the restaurant to have dinner with Ash - I figured the kids hadn't seen him in a couple of days, so it would be nice for them to catch up with him.
I was wrong.
Within 30 seconds, she was disobeying me. She stood near the bar, and I called her over to sit down. She was in the way of staff getting through, which was why I'd asked her to move. She ignored me the first 10 times. Then I got closer, and repeated my calling her name. "MADDISON!!" She didn't look at me, but got that evil grin she gets when she's ignoring me because she doesn't want to hear me.
So we left. I told her that, since she wasn't going to listen to me, we were going to go home. She screamed and carried on the whole way back to the car. The screaming and kicking got so bad that I ended up having to pull the car over and get her out of the car. I locked Coop int he car, and sat her on the grass. She proceeded to scream for another 20 minutes before she was calm enough to get in the car. The meltdown continued on for just under an hour in total, all because we didn't have "dinner with Daddy" like I said we would. Miss I-Can't-Handle-Change again :/
Tuesday was a relatively calm day for her, a couple of minor issues but nothing serious. No major screaming issues or anything.
Today is another story.
Picked her up from school, no issues getting back to the car. VERY hyperactive, but that's not all that unordinary for our Maddison. She was literally bouncing off the walls when we got home, she decided to do her running-down-the-hallway-and-bash-into-things trick. I put Coop in his room to keep him out the way, otherwise he gets bowled over. She started screaming at me because I said NO to using a permanent marker to write with. This carried on for about two hours. Fed her dinner, which she was fine with eating. I put a movie on for her, and she calmed right down.
As I was putting her to bed (without any fuss: I'm starting to wonder if the Incremin I've put her on is doing that - it was recommended by a friend, and it's a vitamin supplement), I noticed her list of spelling words on her desk in her room. I'd asked her not to write on the list, and not even half an hour later, she'd scribbled all over it.
It's hard to say whether she'd done it out of defiance, or whether she'd just done it because she could.
It's frustrating. She has now had her textas pencils and paints taken off her for a week. It's like a compulsion - she tears paper up as well.... she'd put 3 ticks next to each word. It's like a compulsion.
I've just about had enough of her meltdowns and tantrums. I just want to know how to handle her.
I'm scared at the moment. Scared that the paediatrician will say "she's fine" and not do any tests or anything. I'm not about to let that happen, but I don't like the idea of waiting another 2-3 months to get into another paediatrician. My worst fear is that they'll find that nothing is "wrong" with her, and that it's just bad parenting. I know that I'm being silly, and that there is something going on with my child. But I have my mum telling me "she's a normal kid", and the school telling me "there's a problem, but hey: we're wiping our hands of her, sort it out yourself". I KNOW there is something going on with her.
I just want answers. I want to know how to help her, before I go completely insane.
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